Date:         Wed, 29 Jul 1998 16:14:42 -0500
Reply-To:     Kerril Bauerly <Kerril.Bauerly@LABONE.COM>
Sender:       "SAS(r) Discussion" <SAS-L@UGA.CC.UGA.EDU>
From:         Kerril Bauerly <Kerril.Bauerly@LABONE.COM>
Subject:      Re: manners/respect REAL life
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According to my boss you have 2 options:
1)      you can file a grievance with HR and HR will have to deal with it.
2)      If you don't want to go through your company at all, you can contact
EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Council).  When you contact them, you
will be filing a suit against the company.  The EEOC will forward it to the
company and they have to respond.  EEOC will take care of the litigation
from there.
 
This will allow you to avoid your boss.
 
Good Luck!
Kerril Bauerly
LabOne, Inc
Lenexa, KS
 
                -----Original Message-----
                From:   Innis Sande [mailto:isande@NOTES.CC.BELLCORE.COM]
                Sent:   Wednesday, July 29, 1998 3:19 PM
                To:     SAS-L@VM.MARIST.EDU
                Subject:        Re: manners/respect REAL life
 
                I have many times been tempted to throttle coworkers.  But I
would have
                been fired instantly.
                How large a company do you work for?  Some have couseling
services.  At
                least your HR or Personnel dept. should have a complaint
procedure and
                should be able to advise you.
                Good luck
                Innis.
 
 
 
 
                calgaryinnyc@HOTMAIL.COM on 07/29/98 03:41:26 PM
 
                Please respond to calgaryinnyc@HOTMAIL.COM
 
                To:   SAS-L@UGA.CC.UGA.EDU
                cc:    (bcc: Innis Sande/Bellcore)
                Subject:  manners/respect REAL life
 
 
 
 
                Hello Sas Users:
                I am not a newbie, although using an alias and a fake email
accnt.
                I am faced with a situation which I am uncertain how to deal
with. Im in
                my mid 20s, have been employed at my present position for 4
years. Have
                attended SUGI and NYUSERS group meetings.  Have been posting
and helping
                in SAS-L for 3 years. Know both Ian and Ray as well as many
of the SAS-L
                'regulars'...and people from NYUsers Group.
                Although, this is not SAS related...I need your advice.
                I have enjoyed a very 'pleasant' (over all (there was one
other incident
                not with the below mentioned though)) working environment
(for 3 years),
                although, recently that has been changed.
                A co-worker, a PhD, slapped me across my face last Friday.
He hasnt
                apologized, I have not filed charges.  (He slaped me
according to him,
                because he was frightened and it was a reaction.) I went to
our
                supervisor and brought his attention to this matter. This is
where I am
                not sure how to act.
                I feel that my boss has no regard for my safety, nor for
taking steps to
                acknowledge how severe this type of behavior should be dealt
with.
                Monday I at the end of the day approached him (boss) to find
the status
                of the situation and how it was being dealt with. I strongly
believe and
                feel if my safety and my sense of security wre an issue to
him, he would
                have called me into his office. The fact that I had to go is
a statement
                in itself. I learned that he(boss) spoke to the 'slapper'
and the
                'slapper' claimed it was a reaction. At this 'meeting' I
felt that no
                steps were taken to insure that the 'slapper' take
responsibility for
                his actions.  Further, I requested that 'the slapper'
apologize to me.
                To which the boss responded 'i am not a social mediator, you
work your
                personal differences on your own!' with a grimace and a tone
that
                suggested 'Ive had enough, and you are a problem.'
                We have a policy against workplace violence 'the
(nameofcomp) is
                committed to providing a work environment that is safe and
secure as
                possible...this includes, but is not limited to threatening,
fighting,
                assault and sexual harassment. Violation of this policy is
grounds for
                disciplinary action up to and including termination from
employment'.
                What DO YOU ALL think disciplinary action means?
                I am sooooooooooo angry. I am a professional...and I feel
that no one
                realizes how severe striking a woman (or anyone) is.
                Initially I didnt want the 'slapper' fired, I wanted the
boss to
                acknowledge what happened, and to take STRONG measures
against it.
                I surmise I cant specify how belittled I felt why my boss,
tells me
                A. "There are worse things than being hit accross the face.
We live in a
                sheltered society. Woman are being beaten by their
boyfriends/husbands
                everyday." (i was bewildered as an educated man tells me
this.)
                B."Why are you starring at me?" [I was speechless when he
said he wasnt
                a mediator] (in an extremely RUDE Belittling tone, like Im
occupying his
                time with shit).
                I feel like women have rights here. The simplest is to
resign. Although,
                I dont back down from a fight.
                Any and all suggestions are welcome...and please dont frwd
this around,
                because the PhD is also a statistican/SAS programmar.
 
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