Date: Wed, 29 Jul 1998 19:30:32 -0400
Reply-To: Jules Bosch <jxb@BELLATLANTIC.NET>
Sender: "SAS(r) Discussion" <SAS-L@UGA.CC.UGA.EDU>
From: Jules Bosch <jxb@BELLATLANTIC.NET>
Organization: Bosch Systems Inc.
Subject: Re: manners/respect REAL life
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Laura Personal wrote:
>
> Hello Sas Users:
>
> I am not a newbie, although using an alias and a fake email accnt.
>
> I am faced with a situation which I am uncertain how to deal with. Im in
> my mid 20s, have been employed at my present position for 4 years. Have
> attended SUGI and NYUSERS group meetings. Have been posting and helping
> in SAS-L for 3 years. Know both Ian and Ray as well as many of the SAS-L
> 'regulars'...and people from NYUsers Group.
>
> Although, this is not SAS related...I need your advice.
>
> I have enjoyed a very 'pleasant' (over all (there was one other incident
> not with the below mentioned though)) working environment (for 3 years),
> although, recently that has been changed.
>
> A co-worker, a PhD, slapped me across my face last Friday. He hasnt
> apologized, I have not filed charges. (He slaped me according to him,
> because he was frightened and it was a reaction.) I went to our
> supervisor and brought his attention to this matter. This is where I am
> not sure how to act.
>
> I feel that my boss has no regard for my safety, nor for taking steps to
> acknowledge how severe this type of behavior should be dealt with.
>
> Monday I at the end of the day approached him (boss) to find the status
> of the situation and how it was being dealt with. I strongly believe and
> feel if my safety and my sense of security wre an issue to him, he would
> have called me into his office. The fact that I had to go is a statement
> in itself. I learned that he(boss) spoke to the 'slapper' and the
> 'slapper' claimed it was a reaction. At this 'meeting' I felt that no
> steps were taken to insure that the 'slapper' take responsibility for
> his actions. Further, I requested that 'the slapper' apologize to me.
>
> To which the boss responded 'i am not a social mediator, you work your
> personal differences on your own!' with a grimace and a tone that
> suggested 'Ive had enough, and you are a problem.'
>
> We have a policy against workplace violence 'the (nameofcomp) is
> committed to providing a work environment that is safe and secure as
> possible...this includes, but is not limited to threatening, fighting,
> assault and sexual harassment. Violation of this policy is grounds for
> disciplinary action up to and including termination from employment'.
>
> What DO YOU ALL think disciplinary action means?
>
> I am sooooooooooo angry. I am a professional...and I feel that no one
> realizes how severe striking a woman (or anyone) is.
>
> Initially I didnt want the 'slapper' fired, I wanted the boss to
> acknowledge what happened, and to take STRONG measures against it.
> I surmise I cant specify how belittled I felt why my boss, tells me
>
> A. "There are worse things than being hit accross the face. We live in a
> sheltered society. Woman are being beaten by their boyfriends/husbands
> everyday." (i was bewildered as an educated man tells me this.)
>
> B."Why are you starring at me?" [I was speechless when he said he wasnt
> a mediator] (in an extremely RUDE Belittling tone, like Im occupying his
> time with shit).
>
> I feel like women have rights here. The simplest is to resign. Although,
> I dont back down from a fight.
>
> Any and all suggestions are welcome...and please dont frwd this around,
> because the PhD is also a statistican/SAS programmar.
>
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Laura,
Get yourself a King-sized lawyer who is a King-sized SOB and go for the
lottery. Let us know how you make out.
Jules
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