Thanks Amy, you sound like Rodney King, but as a new subscriber I appreciate both sides of this heated discourse and agree that nobody who is reading this needs another mom...so in the meantime.."Can't we all just get along??" -----Original Message----- From: Amy Lyn Edwards <[log in to unmask]> To: [log in to unmask] <[log in to unmask]> Date: Thursday, August 26, 1999 10:00 AM Subject: Conch-l moderation >Conch-l is an UN-moderated list. What does this mean? It means that what >you post to the list is redistributed to everyone on the list without >anyone checking it for spelling, punctuation or netiquette (see: >http://www.fau.edu/netiquette/net/index.html). > >This WILL NOT change because I DO NOT intend to play mother to all 400 plus >people on this list. > >Everyone has an occasional bad day and multi-year subscribers will often >vent on the list a bit more than new subscribers who are more concerned >with what other people may think of them. New subscribers will ask >questions that have already been discussed to death. We also all have >replied when we didn't mean to (if you haven't you will - trust me). > >If I have to I can and will remove a subscriber from the list. I don't >think this is the best option since I do know so many of you and CAN'T >BELIEVE you all are not capable of conversing in a polite productive manner >about molluscs. From my point of view molluscs are the most diverse, >complex, amazing group of animals on the planet. The people I have met who >work with molluscs and collect shells are just as interesting as the >molluscs they collect. There are billions of questions, wonderful stories >and just plain interesting stuff to talk about so why waste time on other >things. > >Here is a suggestion that I hope you will all consider: > >If you are upset, angry or just in a bad mood - DON'T REPLY RIGHT AWAY! > >Erase the email address in the 'To:' line so that YOU CAN'T REPLY RIGHT AWAY. > >Compose your response and then WAIT. > >RE-READ your response SEVERAL times during the next TWENTY FOUR HOURS. >Spend a little time venting at your computer instead of the list. It will >make you feel better. > >If at the end of that time you still want to respond - CONSIDER CAREFULLY >should your response be sent to the WHOLE list of 400 people in over 35 >different countries AND become part of an archive on a web site that anyone >anywhere at any time can read OR should you send it directly to the person >who wrote the email that got you upset? > >Maybe they didn't mean what you thought they meant. Maybe they have a >unique sense of humor. Maybe they don't have as good a grasp of the >English language as you do. Why don't you send them a personal email >politely explaining that their email hurt your feelings and why. Most >people if given a chance are not as bad as their email can make them seem. > >Amy, list owner > > >Amy Edwards, Program Coordinator ------ [log in to unmask] > >Georgia Museum of Natural History -------- phone (706) 542-4137 >University of Georgia -------- FAX 706-542-3920 >Athens, GA 30602-1882 -------- http://museum.nhm.uga.edu/ >------------------------------------------------------------------- >"A man's mind, stretched by new ideas, can never go back to its original >dimensions." Oliver Wendell Holmes